“Life is better after a good confession. After we finished our session, I was able to look at myself in the mirror and actually smile at the reflection. I had not been able to do this in a long time.”
My story
It seems like a few months ago, yet it was actually over 20 years ago that I was cycling in Cuba, we were raising funds for a charity, there were 70 other cyclists and over the course of a few days we would cycle together and chat, this was the first time I had witnessed a full confession and saw the incredible transformation of an individual, it was a joy to witness.
I guess it was the location that helped, that, and talking to a stranger that must have given them the confidence to speak about their past.
We all have regrets from our past, and sadly we hide them away in the crevices of our minds hoping they will disappear, it’s as if we secretly think…. “If I place enough distractions and better memories on top of them, the pain of the past will somehow magically disappear”…… but they don’t do they? If anything the memories actually become worse.
When you least expect it they seem to raise themselves to the top of the pile, saying ,,,, “Are you going to sort this out?” sort it out?!? Sort it out?!? How can I. This was never supposed to happen, so we say to ourselves. “This was a huge mistake. Now clear off!”
Guilt and regret are like heavy rocks from our past that weigh us down. We carry them with us day after day. I guess that’s why I became a confession coach to help others unburden themselves from the errors of their past.
“It’s good to talk, really it is, talking saves lives, it changes lives, confession lifts the lid of the past, removes those heavy rocks that you have been lugging around with you for so long…. too long in fact, but you know that already don’t you.”
Looking back to that day in Cuba when the cyclist plucked up the courage to share with me their regret from their past was a transformative moment in both our lives, they left with a smile on their face free from the mental shackles of the past and I left with a deep desire to help others do the same thing. Confession will change your life, it will bring you more freedom, more joy and a lightness of heart to live a more transparent and meaningful life.
It took some courage that day in Cuba sat in the shade quietly talking, I came away with great admiration for the one who had opened up to their past pain, confession is a step of courage, a big step in the right direction.
Since that day over 20 years ago I have listened to many confessions.
So, if you have a moment from your past that won’t go away, a burden to share, guilt that weighs you down, come, sit and let’s talk. You deserve the opportunity to let it go and move on.
My name is Wayne I help people like you to confess.
Why should I want to confess?
A quick answer would be, a weight will be lifted, your own mental barriers, which appear so real at the time, are lifted and removed so repairing and healing can begin. Allow me, if you will, to go a little deeper into this.
A Weight is lifted
People often say to me, “What they don’t know can’t hurt them.” In terms of considering confession, I’d say what you do know can hurt you. It can and indeed does hurt you mentally, emotionally, physically and psychologically for many years. Confession lifts the weight of what you have been mentally carrying.
Barriers are removed
Shame thrives in isolation. Therefore, when we confess our shame to someone, we are stepping out of isolation. Barriers we have put in place are removed, one by one; you are most likely to feel a new sense of emotional freedom. Confession is powerful, make no mistake about it.
Repair can begin
One of the most prominent characteristics of living with regret is that it usually brings harm to our self and as a consequence often to our nearest and dearest. When we refuse to face our fears and confront regret, we are also resisting the healing that comes. When we do rise to this challenge and admit to our shortcomings, standing in the face of fear the relief is our balm. If we do not confess where we have fallen short, how could we possibly achieve any necessary healing? Confession invites healing so the repairing can begin. It says that we understand where we have gone wrong and we want something more.
RESERVATIONS ARE PART OF THE PROCESS
Don’t worry if you have reservations it’s an understandable response. Below are some answers to the most common questions I’m asked.
“You know, It’s not every day you will get the opportunity to sit and confess exactly what’s has been burdening you for so long, I decided to make that decision a while ago now and I am So very glad I did. Immediately afterwards, Wayne and I were chatting and I felt like this enormous weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I felt a peace descending into a place where pain had dwelt before. Lighter, I actually felt lighter! It was as if my mind suddenly had more space. I remember laughing out loud.”
DOWNLOAD MY EBOOK
Every confession starts with a commitment.
A commitment to yourself.
So if you are serious about wanting to unburden something from your past but have some reservations before booking your 1 to 1 session with me. I encourage you to download this easy to read EBook.
It’s only £5.95, in it you will find some of the questions you may still have in your mind answered.
Question I have been asked time and time again by those like yourself seeking to commit to a deep and meaningful confession. I want to help you every step of the way to a lighter, brighter more authentic version of yourself.
No more hiding ok!
Download this easy to read EBook really absorb its message, and you are well on your way to booking your 1 to 1 session with me.
Together, we’ve got this…
I’m ready to begin this confession process, what do I do next?
Simply click on the book your 1 to 1 where you will be guided to the next step.
You can choose a suitable time and date on the booking calendar, pay for your session; you will receive confirmation and a receipt for your payment. If you have chosen a zoom meeting I will forward you the zoom meeting ID and password nearer the time.
Please make sure you have the zoom app installed on your device before the session begins.
confidentiality is at the heart of what I do.
With this in mind we only communicate through channels and media you’re comfortable with.
the choice of how we communicate is up to you.
“Confession really is the best medicine. I was reluctant to book a session; in fact I was dreading it. I now know I didn’t need to fear a thing, the whole process was really well run and my fears soon evaporated.”
“Together it is possible. I needed a lot of encouragement to really open up and share everything. Wayne knew exactly what to say and when to allow me to go off track. He gently and calmly brought me back on track. I am glad I made use of this man and his unique way of seeing confession. His 3 step programme made it possible for me to finally open up to my past.”
The 3 biggest reasons we don’t confess
FEAR
We just don’t know how someone might react when we tell them. Will they disown us, mock us, maybe even verbally attack us, or perhaps just walk out? The list goes on. Fear stops so much of life happening. Fear prevents any lessons to be learnt. Fear is an anchor that weighs us down daily.
As a confession coach I will help set you free from your fear. Talking openly to a stranger who has heard many confessions is a safe option. I certainly won’t mock you, nor will I ridicule, judge you or walk out on you that’s for sure. Running your confession past a confession coach gives you the opportunity to hear yourself, and to free yourself from the fear of speaking out. The relief you will experience outweighs the fear you might be feeling right now. Trust me, confession works. It’s powerful in liberating yourself, both mentally and physically. Remember, fear casts a large shadow, but that same shadow in itself is very small compared to the light that surrounds it. I’ll help you to see how the relief and lightness you will feel can succeed in winning over any fear.
I might break down and cry
And that would be so embarrassing. Not to me. I see plenty of people cry. Crying is good, vital sometimes. Blocked emotions can actually harm us. Crying is a great way to release deeply held grief, regret and shame. I see men and women cry regularly and let me tell you, they all feel better for it. Crying with a confession coach is a safe and encouraging way to share your confession. I’m here to help and guide you through this stage. Don’t worry you’ll be fine. We’ve got this. Ok!
My confession is so bad
Really? Who says? You do. Well, try running it by me, I have heard a lot of confessions and I am not often surprised by them. We are all human after all; we all mess up at one time or another. Even a careful driver can bump their car. We will all make a few wrong turns in this life; we have all done things that afterwards we think, “Why did I do that?” So, stop beating yourself up and book your session. I will help you see that your view of confession might need looking at in a different way. One that no longer holds you hostage to a life of regret. Let’s talk about this, set it free, and move you on toward a lighter life.
Letting go of the past, means letting go of the pain. When you confess, the pain of the past is released, from the mind, body and soul.
A CONSULTATION WITH ME
I do not counsel, I listen deeply with intent to truly hear what may be holding you back and the questions I reflect back to you are the alchemy that offers huge shifts.
When you book your session, we will spend around 2 hours together. This is what we are likely to cover.
3 Unique steps to change your view of Confession.
Ready
Ask yourself if you are ready to start your confession. Ready to accept the wave of emotions this will bring. Sure the high of actually speaking it out loud to another human being, but also the potential low as you actually speak what is locked inside your mind to another human being. Make no mistake confessing is not for the faint hearted, it’s for the strong. This is going to take from you, so be mentally and emotionally ready to confess. Go somewhere quiet on your own and practise what you might say, see if you can hold it together, see how you feel afterwards. Confessions are messy things wet things, painful things too, yes tears are possibly going to flow, noses too, voices may well crack and even fail. But push on you must. So step one is about being ready.
During this first step I will ask you a few questions to help you with the next step.
Steady
Yes I’m going to ask you to steadily, calmly and unhurriedly tell your story. Your confession story. How old you were, what your mental and emotional state was like at this particular time. What other significant events were happening or had recently happened around this time. Often by building up a picture, does it become easier for both of us to share and hear the confession. Keeping this session on a steady path allows you in your own time the space to share what has been troubling your mind and your heart for so long. Confession brings with it hurt but so too healing. This is not a place for rushing or indeed brushing over facts events or feelings. Step two is all about you and your steady, deep and totally honest confession.
This middle session is where time stands still; you are free to take your time, to go deep in your confession to admit to things you never ever thought you could say out loud. You will surprise yourself here. You have more courage and inner strength than you ever thought. I’m here to carefully listen to you, stay with you and encourage you to release the pain from the past. This is a special, some might even say it’s a spiritual experience as you cleanse yourself from a moment in your past, face it, express it and so release it from you consciousness.
You will feel liberated after this session.
Go! Yes step 3 is Go!
Go from here on your journey to mental recovery. You have done it, you have opened yourself up and shared your hurt, your pain, and your regret from the past. It’s been said out loud, it’s been exposed, it’s been shared with another human being, you are going to feel liberated for sure but there is also that feeling of now what? This final session is to equip you for the journey ahead, the lighter road you will travel, the freedom you will experience the comfort of knowing you can move on from this, and you will move on. No longer are you trapped emotionally, you have admitted your error or your hurt from the past and now you can draw on that, to power you forward, having learnt new life lessons. Go and live.
Also, during this session I might help you mark this significant event and set a new intention. Now you have faced your fear and confessed there may appear to be a bit of a void, a gap, a space where once fear and guilt dwelt. In this, your final session, it is always wise to fill that space with a positive thought; it’s called setting a new intention. It might be a mantra you say to yourself, lighting a candle with a silent prayer request, a liberating song you will now choose as your confession song of celebration, or a meditation, the choices are many. The reason I do this, is because as time moves on your mind may attempt to take you back to your pre confession state, and that will not serve you, by setting a new intention, you are in a mind space that has more power to move you forward.
Testimonials
As you are now aware confidentiality is at the heart of what I do. Which means I will never ask anyone to write testimonials. Names, dates, places etc all lead to someone. Which makes testimonials a difficult subject to share. I have instead listed some of the phrases my clients have shared with me afterwards, expressing their newfound feelings and emotions, once they have finished their session.